Empty Nest Syndrome-Kiranya Aku Ditinggalkan

This morning while i was getting some breakfast for the family, i bumped into my friend cum neighbour and we had a long talk(now neighbours chit chat in town, ye)about our life...and we went on and on ( she left her mom in the car and i left my children in my car) and the talk did not see an early stop.......

One topic that became our point of discussion was about my new renovated house.  She said when we build a house( or extend) we must take into consideration about our later life, when we will become old, weak, fragile, sick and too feeble to move as fast as now.....we must consider the size and the level of the stairs ...well just in case we cannot negotiate even a slight staircase due to our illness.....so we must be careful.

She also lamented about children nowadays ( n in future, if the trend continues) do not like to stay at their parents house when they return for a short visit. They would prefer choosing a nearby home stay, as not to put their parents into trouble of preparing accommodation for them. Thus, there is no need to prepare so many bedroom for the children. Later, when they start working, they won't be coming home that often.....bla bla bla.

Actually, her comments bring some truth in this new lifestyle....based on observation and experience, she said  that many parents are experiencing empty nest syndrome....too lonely after being left by spouse or children. These elders find no comfort at their children's house, nor at their own...So life is so miserable.........her own mother who has a big house is now hopping ( not literary) from one house to another....and my own mom is now at home, alone as nobody wants to return and stay with her........

Nevertheless, i think i have my own reason for extending my house, actually. i know i cannot keep them forever with me, they will leave me, they will work in other far places, they will get married, have their own families and even buy their own houses. But it should not stop them from coming home, right. And i do not want them to give a lame reason that our house is too small for them. I have done my part by providing them with a comfortable home...there shouldn't be a reason for them not to come back.  however, if that is what they want to do, i cannot force them. Surely they have their own life to lead, so let them decide. i have given them good education, so they should be able to choose what is right and what is wrong.

Actually, i already bought this Chicken Soup for Nest Leavers, expecting this would be a new experience for me and my husband.  even though this is not what i want, who knows what will happen in future. Allah is the One who Knows...so we just have to accept it.......My only pillar of strength and patience is DOA....i believe in the power of DOA......the rest, I just leave it to Allah.........

Big Bad Wolf Craze

 Today, we made a somewhat educational visit to Seri Kembangan The Mines for the so-much-talked-about book sale...it was quite a long way from Shah Alam since we did not know the place so the turn around, the re-routing was common for us....thank you abah for being so understanding and patient.

 Alin and Ayish scouted the children's section....umi was nowhere to be found hehehe...i lost myself......

 My search for my favourite books plus authors such as Maeve Binchy ( family) and Patricia Conwell (pathology n crime)was a success.. i managed to grab a few new titles....at the price of RM8.00 each.....very cheap weh........ i think i bought about 10 new fictions....plus a few Chicken Soup editions, not to forget some reference books, puzzles, etc......

 Not to worry as i had these 2 helpers, Akak and Eman who obligingly carried the heavy box containing all my purchases.....

 Given the chance, i would sleep here...they promised a 24-sale today and tomorrow is the last day......

 After my first purchase of rm180, i made a second entrance, accompanied this time by another helper, Bob....he was tailing me closely, scared that i would fall since i was so tired actually.

This time, i only bought about 50rm.....enough la for a year read......insyaallah, next year, we will go again.....how i wish this kind of year-end sale will be held in Penang for the Northerners...it would be closer to our hometown and we can spend more on books.........IQRA'...........

Gunung Jerai Snaps

 Kalau ni la jalan masuk rumah umi kan ke baguih

 Ayish yg terpaksa berlakon atas arahan Director Eman...ala tap dance gitu

 Mak cik ni dah tak reti nak posing

 sejuk tak sejuk kami tak kira

 Adoi...menambat jiwa

 Rasa macam nak amik wak balik, takut yg len lak ikut mampuih

 siang malam tempat ni penuh

 Model yang dipaksa rela

 Kalau tanam kat rumah lum tentu nak idup ni

406......one nite is enough......i cant stand the cool breeze.....

Rumah oh Rumah

 Salam. Ni dia nak cerita kat hampa tukang rumah @Misai yang dok sibuk buat rumah umi la ni. tapi bukan dia la yang buat, dia pakai Indon. Tu dok bincang ngan abah( rupa nak serupa kan) pasai tiles....dah 2 kali pi kedai tengok....dia cukup kalut sebab tile yg kami mau warna biru tak cukup....amboi dia cukup concern, calling sana, calling sini. nak cari juga yang kami  mau. Umi mmg tak mau ubah warna lain selain biru. maklum kabinet pun biru....ish tengok ke rupa kalau orang kata dua beradik pun sure ramai yang percaya kan.....hehe....masa depa dok cakap ni umipun sibuk snap gambar depa, tapi abah ni malu sikit, dia buat tak mau tengok.......tak pa.......(sila abaikan gambar model  di belakang tu ye)

 Tadi depa dah buat bahagian depan ni ( living room) nanti boh pintu dan tingkap, siapla bahagian baru ni. pastu baru boleh tebuk dinding nak tambah bilik...kalau tidak terpelehong pulak la rumah kami.

 Amboi, Cik Daisy ni, galak pulak dia berbunga...nanti tua sikit umi dah nak cabut buat benih baru. La biaq pi depa hidup dulu. nanti tembok ni pun kena buang dah....sayang tapi nak buat camna...hidup kena berubah kan.

 Ni angle tepi rumah...masih berselerak lagi. umi nak masuk pun tak lalu....biar depa buat bagi selesai dulu, barulah umi campuq tangan....sabar dulu......

 Dari dalam bilik umi, dapatlah dilihat habuk2 yg berterbangan di ruang dapur .......bila siap nanti, umi tak leh buka dah la tingkap ni....takut bau masakan masuk pulak....ala masak apa la sangat....kalau setakat maggi mee.....tapi dapur mesti elok kan..habuan nak suruh menantu masak kat mak mentua.......ayat nak kena saman ni.

 Operasi mengemas berjalan dgn amat perlahan sekali. dah tkak tau nak letak kat mana benda2 ni.kalau sapa mai time ni, mmg pengsan 5 minit la......ntahla malas nak buat sebb tak dak tempat nak boh dah...nanti la ye....bila mood elok, umi buat la

Waktu malam, nampak macam ni la parking kami. herot petot...debu simen merata tempat.pasir pun menguasai sebahagian kawasan. la nak undur keretapun jadi masalah....kat umi la....abah dia belasah aje...janji leh keluaq......inilah saja lintas langsung dari 429 taman siswa 2.....nanti bila dah kemas elok, umi snap gambar yg cantik2 la kan.......

Gurindam Cuma

Aku tak mau sakit di dunia

mengejar sesak ribut mencari harta

merebut pangkat menongkah setia

menjerit penat lelah segala 

hanya kerna sebuah nama, secebis bahagia

Aku takut sebenarnya

leka lupa diri didusta

ringgit menimbun bersama dosa

memijak kepala merobek dunia

sedangkan sukanya hanya seketika

Aku lebih suka leka di desa

mengalun seloka lagu sehala

menganyam jalur tenang seia sekata

menyapa senda bersama keluarga

mengupas sayang bibit ceria

walau hidup tidak berharta

namun hati tidak berduka

tiada rebut, tiada nista,tiada murka

tenang, lembut menginjak usia

kerna itulah sejati bahagia

Eman's 18th Birthday

 Today Eman celebrates his 18th birthday.....my..... it seems only yesterday i delivered him...a healthy 3.5kg ( the biggest of all) at Jitra District Hospital.....hehe the one born in early  morning, after my request of  A & W rootbeer was not met.....at that time there was no outlet in Jitra...even now also there is none.......k cukuplah dok meratuih.....18 taun dah peristiwa itu berlalu.....

 Since i am attending a course today, we could not give him a proper celebration, so yesterday we took him and the kids to SP for a round of bowling and we allowed him to win........then abah took us to Pantai Merdeka.......for 2 hours, dipping in the sea...........

 See the tiny shot of 5 of them in the sea......they had a whale of a time, guarding ayish and helping alin collecting the seashells.......atih and adik also joined .......weh tua pun mandi lagi ye........

We arrived in Jitra at nite.....abah took us for dinner......too tired actually to enjoy the food but......that was the only thing we could do to mark the special day for Eman...hope he did not mind the simple occasion....we will wait until 20th Dec when we can celebrate together with atih's birthday....then we will go for a long holiday, insyaallah.....till then, Happy Birthday anakku....may Allah Bless you forever.....my love for you never end......remember that.......

Sick, Sorrow, Scattered

SICK. KAKOM is over, but my coughing is not showing any quick recovery, despite numerous lozenges, cough syrup, minty sweet etc that i tried...my old ( have to admit la) age must have contributed to this prolonged discomfort. My lessons did not go smoothly as they were stopped by interval pauses....much to my disappointment and the students' pity-looking faces.....

 SORROW.  The first week of semester 2 started with a startling letter by the admin......without any rationale given, we were directed to do something that was very irrational.....we became the laughing stock, we were bombarded with never-ending questions by colleagues, we faced shameful remarks.....when we were supposed to be recognized as a "respected group ", something that we never wanted, but offered, but given in a very unprofessional way..... we really fail to understand WHY? and to date....our state is still stateless.......

SCATTERED.  The house renovation started 3 weeks ago, and it is progressing well, thanks to the ever-trusting Misai, a 70++ towkey, whose hawk-eyed supervision made the Indonesian workers slogged from morning till evening, 6 days per week.....he is so meticulous that even a slight mistake must be dealt immediately, if not they will get a stern warning from Mr Moustachy......one time i heard one of the men said: Innallah hama'aso biriin..........pity them....maklum orang muda...sure panas telinga dgr orang tua dok marah2....but i think Misai is doing the right thing, if he ever allows them to relax, my house will only be ready next year...........tak sanggup....as for now, things are not in proper order...and i am just not ready to accept guests.....and i hope today they will come to work, and not boycotting the job after they lost to Harimau Muda  last nite.......ok yer kkwan2......nanti i buat kenduri pisang berangan le ye.......