Empty Nest Syndrome-Kiranya Aku Ditinggalkan

This morning while i was getting some breakfast for the family, i bumped into my friend cum neighbour and we had a long talk(now neighbours chit chat in town, ye)about our life...and we went on and on ( she left her mom in the car and i left my children in my car) and the talk did not see an early stop.......

One topic that became our point of discussion was about my new renovated house.  She said when we build a house( or extend) we must take into consideration about our later life, when we will become old, weak, fragile, sick and too feeble to move as fast as now.....we must consider the size and the level of the stairs ...well just in case we cannot negotiate even a slight staircase due to our illness.....so we must be careful.

She also lamented about children nowadays ( n in future, if the trend continues) do not like to stay at their parents house when they return for a short visit. They would prefer choosing a nearby home stay, as not to put their parents into trouble of preparing accommodation for them. Thus, there is no need to prepare so many bedroom for the children. Later, when they start working, they won't be coming home that often.....bla bla bla.

Actually, her comments bring some truth in this new lifestyle....based on observation and experience, she said  that many parents are experiencing empty nest syndrome....too lonely after being left by spouse or children. These elders find no comfort at their children's house, nor at their own...So life is so miserable.........her own mother who has a big house is now hopping ( not literary) from one house to another....and my own mom is now at home, alone as nobody wants to return and stay with her........

Nevertheless, i think i have my own reason for extending my house, actually. i know i cannot keep them forever with me, they will leave me, they will work in other far places, they will get married, have their own families and even buy their own houses. But it should not stop them from coming home, right. And i do not want them to give a lame reason that our house is too small for them. I have done my part by providing them with a comfortable home...there shouldn't be a reason for them not to come back.  however, if that is what they want to do, i cannot force them. Surely they have their own life to lead, so let them decide. i have given them good education, so they should be able to choose what is right and what is wrong.

Actually, i already bought this Chicken Soup for Nest Leavers, expecting this would be a new experience for me and my husband.  even though this is not what i want, who knows what will happen in future. Allah is the One who Knows...so we just have to accept it.......My only pillar of strength and patience is DOA....i believe in the power of DOA......the rest, I just leave it to Allah.........