LOVE IS BLIND

Yesterday, in class, umi  conducted a debate-like discussion with my S3T3A/B students.  umi came out with 10 argumentative essay statements and they were supposed to give suitable responses. One of the statements was:
PARENTS SHOULD BE BLAMED FOR THEIR CHILDREN'S INDISCIPLINE PROBLEMS.  What made umi so dumbfounded was that 23 students agreed to this except 1. Among reasons elicited were:
1. If parents are BAD, their children are BAD too.
2. Parents are the FIRST educator, so they must teach their children right.
3. Parents are busy at work and they neglect their  children
4. Children are stressed out because their parents do not care for them.

Suddenly umi became so disturbed with these sincere words and again asked them whether they agreed to these, which they responded by nodding their heads. Umi was stunned ....it was very obvious that  one student, Atira said: teacher, you look  so small. i don't agree because i think there are other factors that lead to this ......i wanted to  agree with her but the effect of unanimous nods was very disturbing.

Umi left the class, dazed by the shocking fact, and this haunted umi a lot. The question posed in my mind was:
Do my own children think the same way?
Do they think that whatever wrongdoing (if any) committed by them was the result of my hubby and my fault?
What have we done wrong?
Am i a good mother?

Well, obviously, we parents  are so sincere in our thoughts, thinking that all children  are the same, all are obedient, all are angels and all can be trusted. We are so honest, hoping that all are well and beautiful. We are engrossed by giving 100% COMMITMENT TO A RELATIONSHIP that sometimes we fail to see that, children, even though they come from the same womb, have a different way of thinking, a different way of seeing and accepting things, a different way of dealing with things....children are so different in so many ways....the fact that umi believes many parents fail to see and vehemently would like to deny.

Thanks to that enlightening discussion, now umi can think clearly, be wary and be ready to face whatever that comes in my life dealing with my 8 children.  Indeed, things that happen should open my eyes, should make me realize that, any shortcomings seen in my children, could be due to my husband or my own wrongdoings. If that is the truth, then we want to sincerely apologize for our  failure, for own inefficiency, for being so oblivious to the fact of life. Insyaallah, we will become better parents and we will not be blamed. The thought itself make ummi shivers....No wonder old people always say: it is easy to look after a herd of cows ( no pun intended to the recent court case)but very difficult to look after one child ( in my case , 8)

Now umi understands what is meant by LIFE IS NOT BED OF ROSES.